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Undo Your Negative Self-Talk

Undo Your Negative Self-Talk | Rebecca Mander | GuruYou Coaching

Have you ever walked out of a meeting, finished a presentation, landed a promotion, or achieved something you’ve worked incredibly hard for, only to hear that little voice in your head say, “You got lucky,” or “It’s only a matter of time before they realise I’m not good enough.” If you nodded along to any of those statements, you’re in good company. In this article, we’re going to look at how you can undo that negative self-talk.

Summary

  • Many successful people experience Imposter Phenomenon and feel like they don’t deserve their achievements, despite evidence to the contrary.
  • Self-doubt appears when we step outside our comfort zone or pursue something meaningful.
  • The stories we tell ourselves, such as “I’m not good enough” or “I’m not ready,” can start to feel like facts if repeated often enough.
  • Most people can easily list their weaknesses but struggle to recognise their strengths and achievements.
  • Confidence is built through action, not by waiting to feel ready.
  • Reflection and self-awareness can help uncover the limiting stories you’ve been carrying for years.
  • Every successful person experiences self-doubt; the difference is they don’t let it make their decisions.

Over the years, I’ve coached people from all walks of life. Senior leaders, professionals preparing for promotion, people changing careers, and people stepping into completely new chapters of their lives. Do you know what many of them have in common? They don’t feel good enough!

Somewhere along the way, they’ve started believing the story their inner critic is telling them.

The Human Experience of Feeling Like a Fraud

You may have heard the term Imposter Syndrome before; I prefer to use Imposter Phenomenon because it’s not a syndrome! A syndrome is a group of symptoms that can’t be understood.

As a coach, I understand exactly why my clients feel like imposters. They’ve experienced a persistent sense that their achievements aren’t truly deserved, despite evidence to the contrary (showing up in their careers, businesses, relationships, or even personal goals), creating an exhausting internal dialogue that constantly questions their worth and ability.

It’s something I see particularly in women stepping into leadership positions or traditionally male-dominated environments, and I get it. Women in senior roles can face additional pressures and expectations. They can find themselves working harder to prove their credibility and questioning whether they truly belong or earned their spot at the table.

But here’s something important I want you to remember. Feeling like an imposter isn’t a women’s issue. It’s a human issue. I’ve worked with men who felt it. I’ve worked with people who grew up with very little and felt they didn’t belong in a successful environment.

Whenever we stretch ourselves, pursue something meaningful, or step outside our comfort zone, our brains try to keep us safe by creating doubt. The problems bubble up when that doubt becomes a habit.

The Lies We Tell Ourselves

I want you to think about the conversations you have with yourself. Would you ever speak to a friend the way you speak to yourself?

When clients come to me struggling with confidence, they’ll say things like:

“I’m not experienced enough.”

“Everyone else seems to know what they’re doing.”

“I should be further ahead by now.”

“I’m not ready.”

“Who am I to do this?”

If we repeat these thoughts often enough, they begin to feel true, but a thought is not a fact and thinking something doesn’t mean you have to believe it.

One of my favourite coaching questions is: “Is that actually true?”

I’m not talking about emotionally true, but factually true. If someone tells me they aren’t capable of a promotion, I’ll ask them for evidence to support that claim, and guess what: they struggle to provide it!

Then I ask them what evidence they have to show they are capable of achieving whatever it is they want, and suddenly a list appears. They have years of experience, qualifications, positive feedback, and projects delivered. Keeping a positive attitude log is a great way to build your self-confidence. Think of it as your daily journal.

The evidence was always there, but the inner critic was shouting louder.

Moving From ‘Not Enough’ to ‘Capable and Confident’

Confidence doesn’t magically appear one morning – if only! Our confidence comes from taking action.

Here are a few strategies I like to share with coaching clients:

  • Keep a Success List – Most people remember their mistakes, and few keep a list of their wins. Start writing down your achievements, compliments, positive feedback, milestones, and moments you’re proud of. When self-doubt appears, you’ll have proof to challenge it.
  • Catch Your Inner Critic – Pay attention to the language you’re using. Instead of saying, “I’m terrible at this,” try switching it to say, “I’m still learning this.”
  • Focus on Progress – Comparison is one of the quickest ways to destroy your confidence. Someone else’s chapter twenty is not a fair comparison to your chapter three. Take time to notice how far you’ve come rather than how far you still have to go.
  • Borrow Confidence From Your Past – Think about something you once found difficult, like driving, public speaking, or leading a team. Now think about how normal it feels today. What changed? You didn’t suddenly become fearless. You took action despite the fear, and that’s what confidence looks like.

Your Reflection Exercise

Grab a notebook and answer these questions:

  • What is one negative story you repeatedly tell yourself?
  • Is it actually true?
  • What evidence contradicts that story?
  • What would you say to a friend who felt the same way?
  • What new story would serve you better?

Sometimes the biggest breakthrough comes from awareness of that narrative you’ve been carrying around for years.

Every successful person you’ve ever admired has experienced Imposter Phenomenon, but the difference is they didn’t let it dictate their decisions. The next time your inner critic starts talking, pause and ask yourself, “What if I’m more capable than I think I am?”

If you’d like support understanding how Imposter Phenomenon is impacting you and how to build more confidence to show up with more clarity in your career, sign up for our monthly newsletter packed with coaching advice and tips, or book a FREE consultation call with Rebecca to learn how we can support you.

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The Stories You Tell Yourself

The Stories You Tell Yourself

Are your thoughts supporting you or holding you back? The stories you tell yourself can be empowering or keep you stuck. The tricky thing is that when you repeat these thoughts often enough, they stop feeling like thoughts and start feeling like facts. In this article, we look at how to change the stories you tell yourself. 

In short…

  • The stories you repeat to yourself shape your confidence, decisions, and opportunities. 
  • Many limiting beliefs come from past experiences, fear, comparison, or old conditioning.
  • What are 4 questions to help challenge negative self-talk and uncover whether your thoughts are actually true?
  • Limiting stories often stop people from taking action, applying for opportunities, or being visible. 
  • Repetition makes thoughts feel familiar, but familiarity doesn’t make them true. 
  • Small mindset and language shifts can create powerful changes in confidence and identity.
  • Replacing harsh self-talk with supportive, balanced thoughts helps build self-trust and momentum. 
  • Journaling and self-awareness exercises can help uncover and rewrite unhelpful narratives.
  • You don’t need to eliminate fear completely, but you can stop automatically believing every negative thought.
  • It’s not the belief that is the issue, but the strength of it!

When was the last time you heard yourself say, “I’m not confident enough,” or “Other people are naturally better at this.” Or “I’m not (Insert desired strength here) enough?

These are stories you’ve repeated so many times that your brain has accepted them as part of your identity. One of the most powerful mindset tools I’ve come across for challenging these thoughts is from author and speaker Byron Katie. 

It’s simple, eye-opening, and surprisingly emotional when you really sit with it, because the stories we tell ourselves shape everything:

  • How we show up
  • The opportunities we take
  • The risks we avoid
  • The life we create

Your Mind Loves a Story

Our brains are constantly trying to make sense of the world. We create stories based on past experiences, fear, rejection, embarrassment, childhood conditioning, and even the odd offhand comment someone made twenty years ago!

The problem with this is that most of us never stop to question those stories. We carry them around like invisible rules, and over time, those stories can become our limitations.

  • You stop applying for opportunities because you don’t think you’re qualified enough.
  • You avoid visibility because you hate attention.
  • You stay small because you don’t want to fail.

Meanwhile, somebody else with less experience but a healthier internal narrative is putting themselves forward because their story sounds different.

Byron Katie’s Four Questions

Byron Katie developed a simple but powerful method designed to help people challenge stressful thoughts and beliefs.

The four questions are:

  1. Is it true? 
  2. Can you absolutely know it’s true? 
  3. How do you react when you believe that thought? 
  4. Who would you be without that thought? 

At first glance, they seem straightforward, but when you dig deep, they can completely shift your perspective.

Let’s look at an example of how this works. I want you to imagine your internal story is: “I’m not good enough to put myself forward for promotion.”

Now, let’s run it through the four questions. 

Is it true?

Your first instinct might be to agree, but I want you to pause.

What evidence do you actually have? Are you really not good enough, or are you inexperienced, nervous, learning, or comparing yourself to others?

Can you absolutely know it’s true?

This is where things get interesting. Can you prove, beyond all doubt, that you are incapable of getting a promotion? Probably not! 

How do you react when you believe that thought?

This makes you think about the story’s impact. You might procrastinate, overthink everything, avoid visibility, constantly compare yourself, or never take action. The thought becomes self-fulfilling because your behaviour changes in response to it.

Who would you be without that thought?

This question can feel emotional because it opens possibilities. Without the belief that you aren’t good enough, maybe you would go for the promotion, speak with more confidence, or trust yourself more. Suddenly, the thought loses some of its power.

The Stories That Keep You Stuck 

In coaching conversations, I hear the same types of stories over and over again.

“I’m too old to start over.” 

“I missed my chance.” 

“I’m not experienced enough.” 

“I need to be perfect before I begin.” 

“Other people are more qualified.” 

“Nobody will take me seriously.” 

These stories sound convincing because they’ve been repeated for years, but that repetition only makes them familiar – not true!

Familiar thoughts can quietly shape your entire future if you don’t challenge them. The beautiful thing about self-awareness is that once you recognise a limiting story, you can start rewriting it.

It’s Not About Thinking Happy Thoughts!

Wouldn’t it be great if we could tell ourselves to think happy thoughts, and all those limiting stories and impostor phenomenon moments melted away? 

Although we can’t flip a switch in our mind, we CAN choose thoughts that are more supportive, balanced, and empowering.

Instead of saying, “I’m terrible at speaking up in meetings,” maybe the new story becomes, “I’m learning to communicate more confidently.”

“I always fail,” can shift to “Every experience teaches me something valuable.”

Instead of “I’m behind everyone else and missing out on promotions,” you remind yourself that “My journey doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s.”

Small shifts in your language create powerful changes in identity.

A Simple Exercise to Try Today

Take a thought that’s been bothering you recently and journal through these prompts: 

  • What story am I telling myself? 
  • Is it definitely true? 
  • What evidence contradicts this belief? 
  • How does this story affect my behaviour? 
  • What might change if I stopped believing it? 
  • What is a more supportive thought I could choose instead? 

You might be surprised by how much clarity comes from slowing down and questioning the narrative.

The stories you tell yourself matter. They influence your confidence, your decisions, your relationships, your career, your creativity, and the opportunities you allow yourself to pursue.

Learning to question your thoughts doesn’t mean you’ll never experience fear or self-doubt again, but it does mean you stop automatically accepting every thought as truth.

Ready to Rewrite the Story?

If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the same cycles of overthinking, self-doubt, or limiting beliefs, my Bounce Mindset tools and coaching sessions are designed to help you challenge unhelpful narratives and build a more confident, resilient mindset.

If you’d like support developing your mindset and understanding how to rewrite your story to show up with more clarity in your career, sign up for our monthly newsletter packed with coaching advice and tips, or book a FREE consultation call with Rebecca to learn how we can support you.

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Own Your Visibility

Own Your Visibility | Guru You Coaching

For many professionals stepping into a leadership role, visibility can feel uncomfortable.

You might be excellent at your job, deliver results, support your team, and work hard behind the scenes, but when it comes to speaking up in meetings, sharing your ideas, or positioning yourself for leadership opportunities, it can feel like the spotlight is on you. This article helps you own your visibility.

Summary

  • Visibility in leadership isn’t about ego, it’s about contribution and impact
  • Speaking up helps your team, projects, and organisation move forward
  • The spotlight isn’t on you; it’s on the value you bring
  • Confidence grows through action, not waiting to feel ready
  • Small, consistent moments of visibility build leadership presence
  • Thoughtful contributions position you as someone ready for greater responsibility
  • Reframe visibility from ‘standing out’ to helping others succeed
  • Leadership starts when you use your voice, even before the title comes
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Being in the spotlight can trigger a lot of internal noise. You might start asking yourself questions like, ‘What if I get it wrong?’ or ‘What if people think I’m pushing myself forward?

It’s normal to feel like this, especially if you’ve built your career on being reliable, capable, and effective. It’s important to understand that visibility in leadership means having an impact on the team and business. It’s got nothing to do with ego!

Visibility Is About Contribution

When you hear the word ‘visibility’, what do you think?

Maybe it conjures up things like being on show, or grabbing all the attention, and that gives you an icky feeling. Visibility gets confused with self-promotion, but any great leader knows that when they make positive contributions to their work and those around them, they automatically elevate themselves.

When you speak up, share an idea, or highlight a solution, you’re automatically helping the company or its employees to move ahead.

Your unique perspective might:

  • Solve a problem your team is struggling with
  • Offer a new way of thinking about a challenge
  • Encourage colleagues to approach something differently
  • Create clarity when others might be unsure of the next step

Leadership roles need people who are willing to step forward, which means that your visibility becomes valuable because it helps others.

Let’s say that again, out loud. ‘Your visibility becomes valuable because it helps others!

The Spotlight Isn’t On You; It’s On the Work

If you feel self-conscious about being visible at work, it’s usually because you feel like you’re being personally evaluated, but most of the time, the focus isn’t on you at all.

What matters most is the outcome, so your colleagues and senior leaders are always listening and watching for your insights, strategic thinking, and confidence in making decisions.

Shift the attention away from you by contributing thoughtfully. What can you share today, or at your next meeting, that will add value to your team or project?

When you do this, the spotlight moves from who you are to what you bring, and that’s where your leadership skills begin to grow.

Confidence Comes From Showing Up

Most people assume that confident leaders feel comfortable speaking up, but courage and confidence can take time and effort. According to research, 75% of managers experience Imposter Phenomenon, so you are not alone! You can build confidence by increasing your contributions in meetings, volunteering for additional responsibilities, or sharing your perspective. This will help you strengthen your leadership voice, and over time, others will begin to recognise you as someone who can take ownership and is ready for that promotion.

It’s all about showing up, even if you don’t feel ready.

You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” Eleanor Roosevelt

Small Moments of Visibility Matter

Being loud and putting yourself forward aggressively isn’t necessary. Visibility is built through small, consistent actions.

What might that look like?

  • Asking thoughtful questions in meetings
  • Sharing insights or feedback from a project you’ve led
  • Offering answers when challenges arise
  • Supporting colleagues by bringing clarity to discussions
  • Speaking about lessons learned rather than staying silent

These moments show that you’re thinking beyond your immediate role, and that’s exactly what senior bosses look for when identifying future leaders.

Reframing the Spotlight

If visibility at work still feels uncomfortable, try reframing what the spotlight means for you. Instead of thinking, “People will think I’m trying to stand out.” Try saying something like, “I’m contributing to a conversation that moves our team forward.” Or “I am passionate about my client’s results”

Leadership is all about stepping into the conversations where your voice can make a difference.

What Are Your Next Steps?

If you’re ready to become more confident in leadership opportunities, then visibility is an important place to begin. Not by pushing yourself into the spotlight, but by recognising the value of your voice and the contributions you make.

If you’d like support developing the mindset and confidence to show up more visibly in your career, sign up for our monthly newsletter packed with coaching advice and tips, or book a FREE consultation call with Rebecca to learn how we can support you.

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Embracing Vulnerability, Storytelling, and the Bounce Mindset

Campervan Writer

In this episode of The Bounce Mindset Podcast, we’re joined by Shelley Wilson, a multi-genre author, writing mentor, solo traveller, and champion of women’s voices. From her VW campervan adventures to bestselling novels and mentoring aspiring authors, Shelley shares a deeply honest look at her journey, her storytelling, and how writing helped her bounce forward from one of life’s darkest chapters.

Writing Across Genres and Wearing Many Hats

Shelley is a creative force with a career spanning self-help, young adult fantasy, historical fiction, and, most recently, romance. Her latest novel, Floating Solo, written during a spontaneous moment of inspiration, showcases her ability to pivot into new genres. But beyond her prolific writing, Shelley also mentors women who want to write their books, whether that’s a memoir, a business guide, or a novel.

I support people to bring their stories to life,” Shelley explains. “It’s not just about writing, it’s about creating impact and embracing the vulnerability that storytelling demands.”

From Word Nerd to Published Author

Shelley’s love affair with storytelling began in childhood, scribbling in notebooks and diving into fantasy worlds where anything was possible. A pivotal moment came at 16 when her English teacher read her story aloud in class. “I was mortified and proud at the same time,” she laughs. “But I knew even then that I wanted people to hear my stories.”

Yet life took a detour. Marriage, children, and eventually divorce pulled Shelley away from writing. It wasn’t until she rediscovered books like The Secret that she found her way back to storytelling and herself.

Rebuilding Through Story

Shelley’s personal journey is one of immense courage. In a difficult and controlling marriage, her self-worth was slowly worn away. But her love for her children became the turning point. “I had this moment where I thought: I refuse to die and leave them with him. That was the moment I chose to survive.”

She left, rebuilt her life, and found strength through reading and reconnecting with others. “I went back to work, started making friends again, and began reading strong female characters. It reminded me of who I used to be, and who I could become again.”

The Power of Vulnerability in Writing

Shelley openly shares the emotional rollercoaster that comes with writing a book. From the impostor phenomenon to fear of judgment, she helps her clients navigate the ups and downs.

Writing is vulnerable. Whether you’re telling your life story or writing fiction, those ideas come from your soul. The fear is real, but so is the transformation.”

She likens the writing process to building a sandcastle. “The first draft is you just shovelling sand. You then shape it into something beautiful later. But you can’t skip the messy part.”

From Trauma to Fiction: Healing Through Story

While Shelley hasn’t written a memoir about her experience with domestic abuse, she channels those emotions into her fiction. Her young adult novels often feature 16-year-old protagonists who are strong, flawed girls who find their voice and purpose. “They’re the girls I wish I’d been. Writing them is cathartic. It’s healing.”

She also uses journaling and ‘morning pages’ to offload emotion, a technique she recommends to anyone recovering from trauma.

A Life Beyond the Page

These days, Shelley’s greatest joy, apart from her grown-up children, is solo travelling in her VW campervan, Snoopy. “He’s the best investment I’ve ever made,” she says. Whether writing, researching for a novel, or simply recharging, her van adventures are the ultimate act of self-care and inner happiness.

I’ve learned that happiness isn’t external. It’s inside. That took a while to realise, but once I did, everything shifted.”

A Legacy of Strength and Storytelling

Shelley’s story is one of post-traumatic growth. She’s not just bounced back, she’s bounced forward, building a life of purpose, creativity, and support for others.

I wouldn’t change any of it. I’ve got my three incredible children, and I’ve created a life I love. If I can show other women that they can do the same, then it’s all been worth it.”

Her energy, humour, and honesty shine through everything she does, from mentoring sessions to her novels. “I’m proud of us,” she says of her family’s journey. “And I know I’m not finished yet.”

Want to Work With Shelley?

Shelley offers a range of ways to support women who want to write:

You can also follow Shelley on LinkedIn and all major social platforms, where she shares behind-the-scenes writing tips, motivational content, and glimpses into life on the road in Snoopy, the campervan.
Shelley’s story reminds us that our voice matters, our past doesn’t define our future, and that sharing our truth, no matter how vulnerable, can spark healing, connection, and real transformation.

If I waited until I believed in myself,” Shelley says, “I wouldn’t be doing anything. You don’t have to feel ready to take the first step, you just have to start.”

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Overcoming the Imposter Phenomenon

Overcoming the Imposter Phenomenon | Guru You | Rebecca Mander

It won’t come as a surprise that the talk I’m asked to present the most is on Imposter Phenomenon!

When experiencing a healthy dose of self-doubt, phrases such as “fake it until you make it” encourage us to feel like we should expect to have imposter syndrome at some point in our careers.

Is it a ‘thing’ or something made up by the media?

The term ‘Imposter Phenomenon’ was coined in the 1970s by Pauline Rose Clance and Susanne Imes and is indeed a psychological experience. IT IS NOT a ‘syndrome’ as it’s an experience rather than a diagnosis. They described it as an “intense feeling of phoniness despite evidence to the contrary.”

This phenomenon, while it isn’t a diagnosis, does have an impact on mental health and self-esteem, especially for women hoping to work up the corporate ladder. Many experience anxiety and self-doubt, and it’s often more common in high-achieving individuals.

Understanding the Imposter Phenomenon

The imposter phenomenon refers to a persistent feeling of inadequacy. Female leaders often attach their achievements to luck or external factors rather than their own competence. This mindset can hinder career growth in corporate environments and prevent talented leaders from embracing professional development and promotion opportunities.

Studies carried out in 2018 (Jorge et al., 2018) found that a lack of women in leadership positions can negatively impact business performance. Yet, when women take on leadership roles, the company experiences high-level performance. The study implied that increased female representation, especially in STEM, can promote economic growth, create employment, and reduce poverty.

If so, why are so many competent women not seeking promotion at board level?

How can you identify if you’re experiencing imposter phenomenon?

Fear – You might constantly feel that you’re about to be ‘found out’ and that your incompetence will be discovered, leading to judgement, a visit to HR, or dismissal. You probably overthink the probability of something going wrong.

Tainted Success – You never celebrate a business success because you believe it was either good timing, sheer luck, or thanks to something outside your control. You also underestimate your ability to handle situations.

Perceived Lack of Plausibility – You are in a minority and cannot explain how you ‘slipped through the net’ to get there.

How Does This Impact Leaders?

Unfortunately, societal expectations, stereotypes such as traditional gender roles, and biases in the workplace mean that women can experience a higher level of imposter feelings. These beliefs manifest as self-doubt, meaning potential leaders are hesitant to speak up in meetings, reluctant to apply for promotions, and lack confidence in their abilities.

This internal conflict can create barriers that prevent highly talented candidates from stepping into leadership roles despite being fully qualified and capable.

KPMG revealed that 75% of female executives experience imposter phenomenon during their careers. 57% saw an increase in these feelings during promotions or taking on a new role. This study found that feelings of self-doubt were heightened when in an environment where women are underrepresented.

That underrepresentation can be enough to maintain impostor feelings, creating a cycle in which the lack of female leaders reinforces the imposter’s belief that a promotion or board-level position is unattainable.

According to a report by Leanin.org and Mckinsey & Company, women represent 47% of the general workforce, but only 40% reach entry-level management.

However, there are strategies you can work on to help you overcome imposter feelings.

Recognise and Reframe Negative ThoughtsSelf-awareness is the first step. Acknowledge imposter feelings when they come up and challenge these thoughts by reflecting on your accomplishments. Keep a Positive Attitude Log and record everything, no matter how big or small. This can provide evidence of your capability and progress.

Seek Support and Share Experiences – Connecting with mentors, coaches, or supportive peers who have faced similar experiences can normalise these feelings. Talking openly can improve isolation and reinforce that experiencing imposter phenomenon doesn’t make you less qualified or capable.

Talking our thoughts through with someone can often help. Looking at available options and discussing these openly and honestly without fear of judgment is a wonderful way to reach clarity of mind.

Coaching is a gentle way of supporting, guiding, and encouraging you.

Accept Imperfection – Understand that perfection is impossible and not required for success or leadership. Embracing a growth mindset, which views challenges as opportunities to learn rather than threats, can reduce anxiety around performance.

Perfectionism is a terrible burden. It’s the one thing that often stands between us and real, lasting, deep happiness and the feeling of peace and fulfilment.” Kristina Mand-Lakhiani, Founder of Mindvalley.

Celebrate Your Successes – Regularly acknowledge your achievements. When you are busy, it’s too easy to forget or even downplay your accomplishments, which reinforces imposter feelings. By openly celebrating your successes, you validate your abilities and boost your confidence. Self-reflection helps you identify your strengths and recognise areas that may need improvement.

Invest in Continuous Learning – Ongoing professional development can strengthen your skillset, reaffirm your capabilities, and provide additional confidence in your role. Be cautious of learning for confidence’s sake and being an eternal student; we never can learn enough and should not be constantly on a course in search of perfection!

Stepping into Your Leadership Potential

Overcoming imposter phenomenon is a journey that opens the door to greater leadership potential. As you become more confident in your abilities, you’ll more readily embrace opportunities and thrive in your professional environment.

Remember, experiencing imposter feelings doesn’t weaken your worth or capabilities. By recognising these thoughts and feelings and taking proactive steps to address them, you’re not just overcoming self-doubt but unlocking your true potential as a leader.

Trust yourself and your skills and confidently step forward into the leadership roles you deserve.

Take charge of your career today. Start by recognising when you are experiencing imposter phenomenon and what triggers these feelings.

Simply put, Rebecca reduces the negative beliefs and behaviours that impede great performance.” England Rugby Football Union, Head of Department

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Download our Charlie’s Star© Guide if you need more help leaving your comfort zone or are doubting yourself and want to break the cycle.

Charlie’s Star© was designed by Rebecca, Charlie’s Mum, to help people Bounce Forward through setbacks. Whether at a career crossroads, feeling stuck or lacking confidence, this self-coaching guide helps you to:

  • Make scary decisions easily
  • Move out of your comfort zone
  • Move forward through personal setback