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Victor Over Victim – Tier Blundell’s Inspiring Journey

Tier Blundell | Bounce Mindset Podcast

Tier Blundell’s story shines as a sign of resilience and self-empowerment in a world where exclusion and rejection often define someone’s path. Featured in the Bounce Forward Stories Podcast, my conversation with Tier captures the essence of moving from victim to victor, sharing the amazing resilience and growth through the adversities he has faced.

Tier Blundell | Bounce Mindset Podcast

Early Challenges and the Impact of Exclusion

Tier’s journey started with obstacles that would test even the strongest among us. Born to a white British mother and a Pakistani father, Tier experienced rejection and racism from an early age. His father, unable to maintain a relationship due to cultural taboos, left Tier feeling unwanted, while his mother, struggling to connect, added another layer of isolation. Growing up in a predominantly white area, Tier was exposed to racial slurs and a hostile environment at home. His mother remarried, and Tier’s stepfather introduced another element of rejection, as he, too, was openly racist.

The turbulence of his home life was reflected in Tier’s school experience, where he was placed in internal exclusions and isolated from his peers. A single positive breakthrough occurred in primary school when a teacher helped him learn to read, sparking a lifelong passion for learning. His school journey was more about disciplinary measures than any positive reinforcement, which led to his exclusion from mainstream education.

From Adversity to Advocacy: Finding Purpose

Tier’s sense of injustice sparked a rebellious response, but his refusal to be a victim was clear. Rather than accepting defeat, he adopted survival tactics that helped him cope, albeit sometimes in ways that led to trouble. These actions, however, reflected his inner drive to assert his dignity in a world that constantly undermined it.

Despite leaving school without qualifications, Tier’s life transformed when he found martial arts, particularly MMA. It provided him not only with an outlet but also with a community that valued resilience and dedication. This new environment instilled a sense of purpose and a framework for self-discipline he hadn’t experienced before. Martial arts taught Tier that he could achieve success by focusing on what he could control — his actions, his mindset, and his attitude — laying the foundation for his journey from victim to victor.

A Pivotal Bounce Moment

Tier’s bounce moment came when he was working as a bouncer and realised he wanted more from life. Determined to return to education, he took a bold step, applying to an access course and later being accepted into Warwick University. Despite feeling out of place among students with privileged backgrounds, Tier’s dedication to learning helped him excel. He continued to St. Andrews and eventually to Oxford, where he became the first student accepted from a Pupil Referral Unit. This academic success marked a personal victory and represented his triumph over the exclusion and prejudice he faced as a child.

Embracing His Mission: Excluded from School

Now, Tier channels his experiences into advocacy. Through his initiative, Excluded from School, he shares his story with students and teachers, highlighting exclusion’s profound impact on youngsters. Tier emphasises the importance of a supportive education system that sees potential rather than managing behaviour. His message is clear: no child’s future should be defined by a label or exclusion. Instead, with understanding and support, they can overcome these challenges.

Lessons from Tier: Victor Over Victim Mindset

Tier’s story teaches us that embracing the victor mindset means challenging the narrative of victimhood. It involves choosing to control what we can—our mindset, actions, and resilience—despite circumstances. Tier’s resilience didn’t evolve from an innate advantage; it came from a refusal to accept the limits others tried to place on him. Tier’s journey redefines what it means to bounce forward by advocating for those facing similar struggles.

Tier is a testament to the power of self-belief and resilience. He teaches us that, even when faced with exclusion and prejudice, we can write our own stories, transforming past challenges into future strengths.

Let Tier’s story remind you that no matter where you are, you can choose to be a victor over a victim. LISTEN to the full interview on the Bounce Mindset Podcast.

Fat or Fit in Lockdown?

Top Nutrition Performance Coach Callum Walker joins me in this fascinating vlogcast as I get to the bottom of why it’s so hard to diet in Lockdown! In Part One Callum explains in simple terms what foods will get great results and which ones we need to avoid! I lost 1 ½ stone with Callum last year and I was curious to know if I was the only client of his that was slipping! Generously Callum shares his top tips and wealth of experience and knowledge with us so we can get our waistlines back on track after setback!

Thanks Callum, over to you! …

Callum & I discuss lockdown & diets!

13 Ways to get through your setback

13 years ago today, I came home from the hospital to about 5 police officers waiting for us. We had just lost our son but I welcomed them in and offered them all a cup of tea! We react in the strangest ways during setback and everyone’s reaction is different. Some women I knew had also lost children and I realised now, this very day in 2007, what impact their loss must have had to make them like walking shells. I did not want to be like that, over the next days and weeks I realised I had a choice- we all do and no matter how dreadful the setback, we can choose to be the victim, blame the past and give up on the future or we can be the victor and gather the troops to begin our journey to win the battle. Sure there will be tears, bloodshed and emotion will be high but that is not to say we cannot overcome adversity. Your businesses, your teams, your people are all facing true setback right now and I want them to know it will be OK. Today I celebrate Charlie’s life and for every year we have survived or thrived since he left us, I leave you with a learning on how to get back on track. We can do this! 

  1. It’s ok to not be ok. Don’t pretend- that adds extra pressure, just be you.
  2. Know you can’t do this alone. There is strength in numbers.
  3. Reach out to specialists or do research to help fill in your knowledge gaps to get you through this.
  4. Like any great leader in crisis, delegate your socks off! 
  5. Have faith. There is something out there bigger than you. Call it God, call it energy, the universe…whatever…just call on it!
  6. Don’t be pulled in a way that feels incongruent. You are unique and so is your way forward.
  7. Notice when your negative emotions such as anger or anxiety are impacting others. Call it out and ask for help.
  8. Be open to feedback and listen with your heart.
  9. Surround yourself with those that bring you good energy and take a rain check on those that don’t.
  10. Celebrate the good and notice the small stuff that makes smile- that is a gift.
  11. Know it will be ok in the end…if it’s not ok, it’s not the end. I promise.
  12. Don’t feel guilty for your pain…we know worse things happen at sea but if your pet hamster died and that’s your biggest setback to date then that is a biggy.
  13. Choose victor over victim. You get a choice so notice where you are tempted to sit still and play the blame game; victims get stuck, victors move forward.